Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Be a Yes Woman!
As soon as I started saying yes, I realized I was up for (almost) anything friends suggested and began to anticipate upcoming events. As a result, I felt more positive about the future. My kids always had a bunch of activities for me to attend, and I took pleasure in those. I also focused on planning things I wanted to do and looked forward to each one of them. It was just great to write on the calendar – whether it was to note a tennis game, a wedding, a charity event or just a night out with the girls. Rather than a door closing in my face when my marriage ended, I began to see a world of options opening all around me.
Of course, my kids and my work were my top priorities, but I also added some new facets to my life. It was cool to develop my interests and to spend time with different people. I made a new group of friends, who I really enjoyed seeing. I began to hang out with more divorced people – both women and men. We could talk about exes if we chose, but it was also nice that they did not view me in the context of my marriage, but on my own terms.
I also was intent on making memories with my family and close friends. As I worked to keep my children’s lives as much the same as possible, our family unit of four solidified. My three kids and I developed an even closer bond. We looked forward to holidays and vacations together as well. I planned trips in which we revisited old haunts and also ones where we traveled to new places. I relished these adventures and looked ahead with excitement at the thought of doing more. The word, “Yes,” ushered in a whole new sense of satisfaction and greater confidence in myself. I think it can do the same for you.